There are no Jews, no Greeks, etc... Part 23

It is disturbing to see how the people of the church mistreat or are insensitive to each other, too often than not. How does Christ want us to treat each other, especially wives and husbands? (Ephesians 5:21-32) With love. I am to treat my husband, if I had one, as though I was looking at Christ, and nurture him as I would myself. I need him to lead me with love, as Christ loves me. We are all members of the one body and should work for peace, not be splintered because we believe this is important and that is important and because one of us thinks Christ meant this or that. God wants me to live in peace and He wants those who are in the Church, or who claim to be in the church, to live in peace. To seek to do God’s will, not present one’s interests as a dividing point or disagreeing point but to actually sit down and see what God says. What those who claim Christ forget is that the church is the Bride of the Lamb. (Rev 19:7-9) and must be spotless before Him. Am I doing all I can to be His bride, to present myself spotless? Am I living in peace? Am I seeking God’s will, or am I seeking to procure for my own interests and what uplifts or excites me the most? After talking to some of my married friends, this more than anything else will hinder a marriage, that I want this and he doesn’t, or he wants it done this way, I think it should be that way. Or he doesn’t do things that excite me or thrill me the way this other man did. Number one, that other man was not chosen to be a husband. Number two, where is the peace and love, where is the "for better or worse"? Sometimes they even go to blows or divorce because of “irreconcilable differences”. What that means is that people are too selfish to give up what they want and so they want to break what God put together.